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As In Little Things - Inner Growth Through Daily Experience

Worry

Respecting Death by Seeking The Meaning of Life

The atmosphere was tense in most offices during the 2008 financial crisis but this was especially true at  City Financial Bank. In a strategy to increase the yields on its assets in the 1990s the bank acquired a large subprime mortgage lender, and by 2007 their residential mortgage loans had exceeded their amount of commercial loans.

Needless to say, City Financial suffered great losses as the subprime mortgage market collapsed and had to send home hundreds of its employees. The seemingly endless weekly layoffs had most of the employees on edge because they sensed it was just a matter of time before the bank goes bankrupt.

With a mortgage, student loan and car payments, Gary could not afford to lose his job. He became so anxious and consumed with worry that he had no appetite. He was fed up with his condition and decided to talk with his colleague, Cheung. Cheung’s greatest quality was his inner equanimity which inspired confidence in those around him.

After sharing his fears with Cheung about being laid off with no money to pay his bills, Cheung  gently placed his right hand on Gary’s left shoulder and shared with him an ancient Chinese saying which his father often repeated to him in his teenage years…

If you do not take death seriously, life will plunge you into seriousness. But if you live with death in mind, life will not be able to harm you. With death in mind and that which follows it, you will stride through life as one who lives it, and feels not its severity.

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Taking death seriously means respecting death by seeking the meaning of life. The hardships of life which we all experience is more bearable to the individual who respects life, death and the afterlife. Isn’t it strange that so little attention is paid to this very thing that would enlighten us on all else. With respect for life, death and the afterlife, the impact of life’s difficulties become less severe because they are now seen in the context of a broader picture.

 

“The biggest man you ever did see was once a baby.”  The overworked man who sees his wicked  boss in this light develops a certain level of compassion for him. Compassion, not anger, wells up in him because he sees the distortion of the noble qualities which could have made his boss a great friend and leader.

Regardless of how big, mean, ugly, conniving (you name it) a man is, he was once a smiling baby with the ability to bring joy to all around him.

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Adriana’s friends know her as Miss Sentimentality because every little thing has a sentimental value to her. She gives nothing away so her house is filled with old magazines, every single greeting card she ever received, her projects and test scores from grade school,  even old clothes she had not worn in twenty years.

Her hoarding was now at a point where she lacked a functional living space. Labeled boxes of past memories surrounded the house. “You never know, what if I need them one day” was her usual response to her friend’s urge to get rid of the clutter. She often enjoyed indulging in reveries, re-reading letters and going over photographs from her teenage and young adult years. She so held on to these memories that there was no room for new ones. She was even blinded to the unlivable condition that her home had become for these items had become more important than all else.

One day in January rain fell, as was the norm this time of the year in São Paulo, but this time it lasted for seven straight days. Flooding became an issue causing a lot of residents to evacuate, including Adriana. Her strong emotional connection to her cherished possessions made the parting extremely difficult causing her serious anxiety and ultimately leading to her fainting. She was rushed to the hospital where she regained consciousness but it will be a long road to recovery for Adriana because she has no anchor from where to draw strength. She never made room for the things that matter most.

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How much of what we carry about (past disappointments, grudges, resentment, blame etc) is of any value ?  Every difficulty, could we but see, means progress. At the very least, it is an opportunity to develop an increased level of inner calmness and patience. Seeking faults in others, no matter how justified one thinks he is in doing so, is of no spiritual benefit and is therefore an inefficient use of one’s energy.  As with Adriana, carrying around all this baggage shrinks our functional living space thus preventing new light and power from penetrating and invigorating the spirit.

Inspired by the actions of Mother Teresa, business mogul Adetayo Williams formed “Rise Up Africa,” a nonprofit organization with the mission to end the cycle of poverty in Sub-Sahara Africa. He invested all his wealth and energy towards the realization of his vision of an Africa where every child has the resources to develop his or her innate talents, thereby making it possible for them to contribute to the prosperity of their society as adults.

Mr. Williams attracted like-minded people who contributed their various skills and resources to the project. Gradually “Rise Up Africa” grew to become one of the most respected nonprofit organizations in the world. By the time of Mr. Williams’ death, the organization had slashed poverty in Sub-Sahara Africa by thirty percent.

The new chief executive officer, John Akorie, sincerely wished to fulfill his duties in accord with Mr. Williams’ vision so he devoted the greater part of his energy to the financial security of the organization. “The more financially stable the organization is, the more we can continue on the path indicated to us by the great Adetayo Williams,” he often told his staff.

Years went by and slowly the quality of service to the children began to suffer. The greatest minds in education, medicine, arts and business development who had eagerly worked with “Rise Up Africa” were no longer assisting the organization because Adetayo Williams’ passion for the kids, which fueled their enthusiasm, was absent. Contributions dwindled and the once great organization became insignificant. John Akorie’s intention was respectable but he made one subtle but drastic mistake; he allowed the welfare of the organization take precedence over the children it was founded to serve.

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Over the course of history, the earth has been blessed with many great prophets who showed the path to Light and Truth. Soon after their departure from the earth man began distorting these teachings, although sometimes unintentional but nonetheless harmful. The reason for this was simply the shift of focus from the essence of the teaching to the maintenance of the organization or religion. Truth cannot be arranged, molded or classified, when an attempt is made to arrange truth, the truth becomes a lie.

“Fools and intelligent people are equally undamaging. Half-fools and half-sages, these are the most dangerous of all.”

~ Johann Wolfgang Von Geothe

The Right MentorSamuel has been overweight for years but his weight never bothered him. He walks with his head held high and takes great pride in his work as a janitor at a law firm in downtown Boston.

On a normal Tuesday afternoon at work, he receives an urgent call from a nearby hospital about his mother who was just rushed in after a heart attack. Samuel’s mother was also obese and her obesity caused the buildup of plaque on the inside of her coronary arteries which decreased the space through which blood could flow to her heart muscle, hence the heart attack.

Upon arriving at the hospital and seeing his mother, Samuel decides to change his lifestyle and lose weight. He cannot afford a gym membership or a nutritionist so he asks his friend, Melissa, for advice. Melissa is very intelligent and knows a lot about the recommended daily servings of each food group, the various types of exercises and even the health risks of obesity but there is one problem… she is obese.

Susan on the other hand, is quiet but is in tip top shape. She is not as intelligent as Melissa but she puts to practice the little she knows. Samuel quickly learns that Melissa cannot be of use to him because she always speaks of workout routines she has read about but never actually done. So he goes to Susan and she shows him a simple ten minute circuit training workout she does every morning which he decides to adopt. After two months and six hundred minutes of exercise, Samuel was astonished with the results of the simple exercise routine. He had lost fifteen pounds and felt much healthier than he had in years.

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An alert man will seek his mentors among those who have become what he aspires to be and not those who merely speak eloquently about it.

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